Cross-Post from the Love, Joy, Feminism comment section:

Something occurred to me that I don’t really think has been addressed directly by the commentariat.

I’m confining my criticism mainly to cisgendered/cissexual men* that have PIV sex with cisgendered/cissexual women** that can get pregnant.

You want to have a place and a voice in the abortion debate?  Fine.

Then do everything in your power to fight cisgendered/cissexual male sexual irresponsibility as a function of privilege.

How many men* think contraception/STI protection is 100% the responsibility of the women** they have PIV sex with?  A fuckload, in my experience.

How many men* do sketchy shit like trying to sneak the condom off during PIV sex, compromise barrier protection by tearing it or poking holes in it, or browbeat women** to forego the use of condoms “because it doesn’t feel as good”?  Plenty.

How many men* have to be prompted by the women** they want PIV sex with to put on a condom instead of proactively using them correctly without being told?  Far too many.

How many men* don’t know their STI status and are simply “hoping for the best”?

How many men* think they shouldn’t have to use condoms once they’re in committed relationships with women**?

How many men* are leading the charge for the development of effective, non-barrier male contraception?

How many men* (especially fundies that eschew birth control) insist on the kind of sex that has the highest chance of pregnancy?

How many men* in the United States are implementing restrictive, punitive laws that compromise abortion rights, work against comprehensive sex education, and also work to limit easily available contraception?

If we men* (especially, but not exclusively, anti-choice men*) want a voice, a say, in the abortion debate, we can do everything in our power from our end to ensure unwanted pregnancies are as close to 0% as possible before we open our mouths.

Yes, I know.  “Not all men*” (but still an uncomfortably large number of men* regardless).

{End rant.}