Content Warning: Spectacularly Effed Up Question About To Be Answered

How do I see, touch, press and grope sexy girl’s boobs?

I don’t know.

How can I poke you in the eye with a very sharp stick?

If your answer to my question is “Why would you even want to hurt other people?”, then congratulations. You just answered your own question.

Those that plan to sexually assault women and female-identified people are certifiably horrible individuals. If this sounds like you, seek professional help immediately.

Being generous and assuming you’re not terrible, maybe you’re somewhat clueless and awkward when it comes to dating and sex. The answer is to date intentionally and be worth dating: show up clean, let conversation happen naturally, don’t pretend to be something you’re not, and don’t pressure your dates into anything they don’t want. If a mutual attraction develops (flirting, subtle touching of a knee, clothing, or a hand) and everyone involved wants to take it to the mutual, reciprocal, body-touching level, do so and look out for cues. Them placing your hands on their breasts is probably a good sign. Again, don’t press to get to that point. Wait and see if they want to get to that point then ask if it’s okay to do so. Who knows? They just might want to touch you back in the same way.

The point is consent: be about it, practice it, and call other people out when you see they’re not doing it (like I am now with you).

If you get your jollies posing “provocative” questions you’re pretty sure ethical individuals will have a problem with, I would suggest you get your kicks in another fashion.