My girlfriend said she is not really into crazy sex, but she loves to cuddle me to sleep every night. Does that mean she has stopped loving me and I am being friendzoned? What does cuddling mean to women?

You are in a relationship. Because of the last question you asked, I’m assuming you are a man.

My girlfriend said she is not really into crazy sex …

Define “crazy.” Not for anyone else, but for each other. Are you talking about certain acts, the energy level you maintain or want to maintain during sex, or the level of kinkiness/raunchiness involved? That’s three separate areas of your sex life not easily boiled down into a pat answer. It sounds like you want something she doesn’t and vice versa. See how amenable you both are to an alternating sex day schedule: she’ll try something you like one day and you’ll try something she likes another. Maybe somewhere down the line you’ll both find delightful things you were both unaware of until you started experimenting.

… [S]he loves to cuddle me to sleep every night. Does that mean she has stopped loving me … ?

I’m confused. Do you mean she wants you to cuddle her until she falls asleep? Do you mean she cuddles you until you fall asleep? Or do you both cuddle each other till you both fall asleep? Regardless of how this works out in your situation, she feels comfortable enough to cuddle with you. Trust me, women who stop loving their partners don’t cuddle with them. If you mean you’re not getting a kind of sex you want and you consider cuddling the consolation prize … well, try to stop thinking that way as soon as possible. Cuddling can be it’s own wonderful experience.

… [Am I] being friendzoned?

Please try not to use that term. It’s a favorite amongst men who feel entitled to romantic affection and sex from women. You don’t want to be that guy. Friendship is awesome in its own right. It’s not a consolation prize for romance and sex. And you have a girlfriend, so how does that even work?

What does cuddling mean to women?

Whatever it means to women. I don’t mean to be flippant (maybe I do), but women aren’t a hive mind, a monolith, or a “Cuddle Borg.” There are many men that absolutely love cuddling for the feelings of warmth and affection they get from it. Likewise, there are women that think of it neutrally or don’t like it at all. Your girlfriend clearly likes it. Enjoy it for what it is, unless you don’t like cuddling.

I sense the unspoken issue is that you’d like a kind of sex that’s more athletic, experimental, and/or raunchier/kinkier than your girlfriend is currently comfortable with. If this is the case, you have some issues to resolve. Is she willing to try certain things (slowly at first) that might intrigue her but also scare her a little bit? In that case, make sure you alleviate those concerns by making sure you’re protected against STIs and unwanted pregnancies. Both of you could get checked out at your local clinic together to help assuage her fears. Let her know you’ll respect her regardless of the kind of sex you do or don’t have.

If after all this, you’re still unsatisfied with the quality of your relationship, you may just be too incompatible and need to break up. Trust me, there are plenty of high libido women who wish their male partners were more adventurous and enthusiastic as well.