Are unattractive men labeled as creepy by women?

(* Sigh. *)

from The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, 4th Edition

• adj. Informal Of or producing a sensation of uneasiness or fear, as of things crawling on one’s skin: a creepy feeling; a creepy story.
• adj. Informal Annoyingly unpleasant; repulsive: the creepy kids next door.

from Wiktionary, Creative Commons Attribution/Share-Alike License

• adj. producing an uneasy fearful sensation, as of things crawling over one’s skin
• adj. strangely repulsive

from the GNU version of the Collaborative International Dictionary of English

• adj. Crawly; having or producing a sensation like that caused by insects creeping on the skin.

from The Century Dictionary and Cyclopedia

• Chilled and crawling, as with horror or fear.
• See creepie, creepie.

from WordNet 3.0 Copyright 2006 by Princeton University. All rights reserved.

• adj. annoying and unpleasant
• adj. causing a sensation as of things crawling on your skin

None of these definitions say anything about appearance. Not one.

Do you know what I find creepy? People who, without being asked, loudly proclaim who they (1) believe they could or (2) would not fuck/date/flirt with/befriend based on others’ appearances. It’s the mindset of a spectacularly immature individual. No one’s being attractive or unattractive at you. They’re simply being themselves. Outside of personal interactions with people you’re befriending/dating/going to bed with, no one else needs to know the inner workings of your romantic and sexual mind.

Basically, what you’re proposing is “it’s okay to treat someone disrespectfully if we think they’re ugly or pretty enough.” That’s ugly behavior, and tremendously creepy, in my humble opinion. Keep your heart and pants feelings to yourself unless you’re asking someone else out on a date or are about to have sex. Believe it or not, there are plenty of unconventionally attractive lovely people, conventionally attractive disgusting people, and every kind of combination in between. It usually comes down to personal preference and actions, not some arbitrary list of aesthetic qualities that are deemed “pretty” enough or “ugly” enough to bypass common decency.

Final note: women aren’t a hive mind and there’s no “pretty pass” for harassment or assault.