I am a 23-year-old virgin. Is it a right choice to lose my virginity to a prostitute?

Without knowing you, I have no idea what your sexual preferences are, how you feel about sex work and sex workers, and whether or not you’re going to be considerate.  Hopefully you will be, but your culture may have taught you that these people are unworthy of respect.  Should you take this route, prejudices will definitely negatively affect the quality of your first time experiences with them.

I think you’re making some presumptions about this situation that I’d like to clarify.  Here’s my rephrasing of your question.

I am a 23-year old novice when it comes to eating sushi. Is it a right choice for me to taste it for the first time at a Japanese restaurant?

Do you see why your question is problematic? Here’s my take.

1. The sushi chef is a professional providing you a service. Their motivation for doing what they’re doing is completely their own.
2. The sushi chef cannot guarantee that this will be the best sushi you ever have, whether you paid for it or not.
3. The sushi chef does not expect you to befriend or fall in love with them or to befriend or fall in love with you simply because you paid for a service you wanted from them.
4. The sushi chef cannot provide you what you want unless you can communicate to them what it is that you do want or might want.

Of course, since sex work is largely stigmatized and criminalized and because sex can involve your emotions in a way that eating might not, you have no idea how this experience will affect you. Those are two additional factors that might complicate your considerations.

Here’s advice that should work for you, regardless of whether or not you see a sex worker for your first time partnered sexual experiences.

1. Show up washed, clean, and presentable. Don’t overdo it with cologne, perfume, mouthwash, body spray, or baby powder.
2. Make sure to respect their boundaries and limitations and make sure they respect yours.
3. As a novice, your first time experiences will probably not be the best you ever have.
4. Be able to communicate what it is that you want, no matter how embarrassed you might be.

Sex workers are not a different class of people whose feelings and motivations you get to disrespect and ignore because of societal prejudice. Be a decent person with whomever decides to be sexual with you. Here are some additional complications.

1. Because sex work is largely criminalized, there’s a chance you could be arrested, prosecuted, and jailed.
2. Be prepared to use barrier protection and don’t quibble with your sex worker over this. Know how to use the protection correctly before you show up.
3. Be prepared to pay the price of service and don’t quibble with the sex worker over this.
4. If you’re dating non-professionally, be prepared to respect your partner’s preferences. If you’re dating professionally, be prepared to respect your sex worker’s boundaries.

I’m making this last distinction because sex workers, in most instances, are going to put their preferences aside with clients for compensation. Also, many sex workers don’t want to kiss or orgasm with clients, so try not to be offended if that’s what happens with you.

Stay safe. Be kind.