Women aren’t magical life preservers that will keep you from drowning in your own disappointment.
It’s unfair to place anyone else besides yourself in the role of emotional guardian. This situation is also reflective of the unequal burden of emotional labor we place on women in a discriminatory world.
The way to stop feeling that any potential partner can rescue you from feelings of worthlessness is to build up your own self-esteem. Here are a few suggestions.
- Seek psychiatric help if you need it.
- Find activities or hobbies that make you feel good about yourself/take you outside of focusing on negative thoughts or behaviors.
- Help others.
- Find a passion that’s uniquely your own, doesn’t deprive or hurt anyone else, and pursue it regardless of social convention or tradition.
I can’t guarantee that this will get you a girlfriend, but it will definitely take the pressure off any girlfriend(s) you might have so that you can have equal, fair, and mutual relationships.
Best of luck.
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