Can a narcissist be a good person?

Oh, for the love of Petunia!

Yes, narcissists are people and human. No one is debating that.

However, narcissists are also unquestionably abusers. They hurt and use other people to bolster their nonexistent sense of self. That makes them dangerous.

Child molesters, rapists, and various other abusers are also people, but you don’t see too many people arguing to let them off the hook for a reason: they harm others. Until the harm can be eliminated, there’s no practical reason to go on worrying about their precious hurt feelings, unless they’ve already got you hooked. In that situation (especially as an empath), you’re already looking for the good in your narcissist anyway. How’s that working out?

If narcissists were good people (meaning truly kind, empathetic, considerate, and safe), they wouldn’t be narcissists. Leave their damaged egos and abusive upbringings to qualified therapists they can seek out any time they wish (but probably never will).*

* Yes, I acknowledge NPD exists on a spectrum, but my original point still stands. Narcissists have developed and enjoy the capacity to harm others. Until narcissists themselves do the work of improving, our bemoaning or worrying for them only serves to prevent narcissists from engaging in necessary introspection. If you’re a narcissist that wants to do better, get off your ass and get the work done before you damage someone else.