Is it possible for a man to view a woman as both a romantic interest and a sexual object at once (like to love her but to want to sexually objectify her and do very crazy & kinky things to her)?

Imagine you are a woman who likes kinky sex. You really appreciate your romantic man, but you also crave that kinky sex you’re secretly wishing for. Say you totally come clean and admit, without reservation, that kinky sex with him is something you deeply desire. …

And then he tells you, out of “respect”, that “ladies” don’t do that sort of thing and he won’t be having kinky sex with you to protect your “honor” or “reputation” or “feelings.” Instead he chooses to give you vanilla and romantic sex that bores you to tears and doesn’t satisfy you in the slightest.

Would you feel “respected” and “honored” if someone dismissed your honest feelings because they thought they knew what you wanted better than you did?

Putting someone on a pedestal is a form of objectification because it isolates people from their own agency. That’s how you treat a doll, not a human being.

Objectification can be implemented in as many possible ways as the objectifier can imagine. It’s not the activity that objectifies someone, it’s the decision to ignore someone else’s wishes, desires, and wants for one’s own benefit.

Believe it or not, there are individuals that are romantic and intensely sexual with their partners while being respected and not objectified at the same time. Asking someone to slap your ass because you enjoy it is inherently different from presumptuous abusers grabbing your ass because they feel entitled to do so.