*** Content Warning: Frank Discussion of Anal Sex. ***

How can I convince my girl to do anal and make it enjoyable?

Anal is as anal does.

Let her grab a strap on (if she needs one) to give your ass the ride of its life.

Make sure you’re washed thoroughly and your sphincter is empty before engaging in any anal play. Also make sure she uses plenty of lube and make sure to work on your breathing techniques. Never introduce anything that’s been in your ass into another orifice (or at least change out the barrier device around it with a fresh one).

Make sure she goes slow and give her feedback on what feels good to you. If you have a prostate, let her know if you like intense or gentle prostate stimulation. If you need genital stimulation along with anal stimulation, ask her to reach around and give it to you or use a sex toy in conjunction with her fucking your ass. If you show her yourself how great it is to be on the receiving end of anal sex, she might be intrigued and decide to be the receiver herself. Or not.

If that’s too intense for you, try out a series of butt plugs or sex toys that focus on anal stimulation. If that’s too much, maybe you’ll accept her fingers instead. Again, show her how great it feels to receive anal stimulation yourself. She might want to give it a try. Or not.

If this doesn’t sound good to you, then guess what? It might not sound good to her, either. This is one sexual activity that might be off the menu for your sexual life together. There are plenty of other lovely sexual activities that you can engage in.

People who like receiving anal sex have thought about and fantasized over it intensely before ever putting the idea into practice. They tend to use fingers, a variety of implements, or sex toys while self-pleasuring to simulate the sensation of partnered anal sex. Or they’ve had considerate, kind, and caring partners who slowly introduced them to anal in a way that left the receiver in complete control of the intensity and duration of the experience. If the aforementioned doesn’t sound like your girlfriend, your chances to have this particular experience with her are slim to none.

There are very few people who are on the fence with this activity. If your partner wants to receive anal sex, she’ll probably let you know. You as the “giver” cannot volunteer anything she doesn’t want without coming across as a selfish dirtbag. If you’ve got a dick, don’t be a dick by insisting on putting it in a “new” hole simply out of curiosity or for your enjoyment only.

P.S.: Not everyone leaps at the chance to penetrate someone else’s behind. Plenty of people don’t like it from that direction, just so you know.