Are there any wives nowadays who are obedient and submissive to their loving husbands and actually make a conscious attempt to make their spouse happy before themselves?

Insecure men who fear the necessary loss of privilege often pine for the days of yesteryear when they could socially and legally get away with coercing or straight-up forcing women to obey them. They often retreat into patriarchal and fundamentalist religious subcultures. The non-religious ones form MRA-like cesspools hoping for the return of patriarchal dominance. It’s not going to happen and they’re rightfully being called out as the abusers and bigots that they are.

Unfortunately, there are women that [1] grow up in these kinds of environments that know of nothing else or [2] join with their oppressors in the hope of appeasing them and bullying other women. I weep for the former and shake my head at the latter.

There are kinky women that thoroughly enjoy their inherently submissive tendencies romantically, erotically, and sexually. However, those women aren’t doing it to make their lovers happy before themselves. Those women are doing it to make themselves happy and they’re fully in charge of who they’re submissive with, when they submit, and under what conditions they submit. Any man who thinks he’s going to get these women to do something they don’t want to do is going to be rightfully ignored, if not laughed out of the room.

There are women that prefer the men in their lives to do certain traditional things. But that’s all it is: a preference. It’s not a commandment, it’s not a law, and it’s not a tradition that has to be followed. It also doesn’t indicate anything about what women are like or what they should be like.

There are women that are truly happy to be of service to their communities, their friends, and their loved ones. But they do it out of their own generosity, not because clueless and entitled individuals (usually men) think they should.

Are there (people that care for individuals they choose to be with) and actually make a conscious attempt to make (themselves and the ones they love) happy?

Unquestionably there are. They aren’t waiting around for the good old bad old days to return, however. They’re out creating the brave new world that’s been long overdue.