Is it [okay] to ask for sex on the first date?
Don’t you think it would be better to establish whether or not your date wants you as much as you want them?
If you’re both feeling an attraction you want to act on immediately, you can decide whether or not first date sex is a good idea in your specific situation. Then the important question isn’t “What do well-meaning strangers on social media think about sexual situations that don’t affect them?” Rather, the important questions are …
- Is this person trustworthy?
- Are we protected against unwanted pregnancy and STIs?
- Will this person respect consent/my boundaries?
- What do I want out of this specific sexual encounter?
- Am I having sex with this person only to make myself feel better, to get a commitment apart from sex, or to prove something to myself?
- Is this situation better handled with masturbation or do I really want to sleep with this person?
- Can I enjoy the moment without putting pressure on myself or my partner?
- Am I acting in line with my ethics by doing this or will I feel horrible and disappointed with myself and the other person/people if I proceed?
You could ask a ton of other questions along the same lines. This shifts the focus off of talking yourself into or out of a situation based on what nonparticipants think and places it instead on what you and your potential partners want.
I see no problem with responsible, mature, and ethical adult individuals happily having first date sex. Decide with your dates what will work best for you.
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