I am a housewife staying in a kind of sexless marriage. My hubby has some sexual problems by which he has never satisfied me and he can’t satisfy me in the future. I am sexually oriented and feel very unsatisfied and very frustrated. Where do I find genuine guys for sexual satisfaction?

Try to resolve the problem with your husband first.

If he’s been medically checked out and cleared, if there aren’t unspoken or unaddressed resentments dampening both of your libidos, if you genuinely care for each other and only have frustrations in this one area, you have some important decisions to make.

Might this be a reflection of the frustrations that can develop in a traditional married relationship? Apart from sex, do you get your social, intellectual, and entertainment needs met outside of your marriage? Often sex becomes the barometer by which the overall health of a relationship is evaluated. But if sex is the only thing you have keeping you together, there are other issues that need to be addressed as well.

Maybe going back to work or taking up a long-lost hobby would take the pressure off of both of you looking to the relationship to correct problems with dependence and boredom.

If you’re not already in an open or polyamorous relationship, adding more men to the mix isn’t really going to solve anything and will probably create even more problems than you already have. I think you already know you can find plenty of offers of sex from men. However, genuine men who will sexually satisfy you won’t be that easy to find.

If you’ve honestly tried everything and the problem still persists, you’re probably looking at a separation or a divorce. If so, let your future partner or partners know how important sexual satisfaction is to you. Get confident now speaking up for yourself and be willing to experiment until you get exactly what you want.

All the best to you. Hopefully you’ll resolve this situation as quickly and painlessly as possible.