What does a boy think of a girl if she is too kinky? Does he consider her a slut or as a future sexual object or does he just enjoy her kinkiness?
Let’s rephrase, shall we?
What does a [woman] think of a [man] if [he] is too kinky? Does [she] consider [him unmanly] or [a lousy lay] or does [she] just enjoy [his] kinkiness?
Let’s take it outside of the realm of eroticism and sex completely.
What does [a friend] think of [another friend] if [they are] too [tall]? [Do they consider them] [non-friendship material] or [social poison] or [do they] just enjoy [their tallness]?
If you consider the question ridiculous when phrased these ways, ask yourself why.
If your problem is that you think kinky women are defective or gross, you need to examine your prejudices.
If you’re simply not kinky yourself and don’t envision a relationship with this person, you can take a pass without being a jerk about it.
If you’re also kinky but the woman in question is far kinkier than you, ask yourself if you can live with it or need to find someone more your speed.
And saying someone’s “too kinky” is like saying someone’s too happy or too funny. It doesn’t really tell us anything about the kinky person in question.
Furthermore, there are a bunch of subcategories that can define aspects of a kinky person:
- Top
- Bottom
- Switch
- Piss and poop play
- Furry
- Rape fantasy
- Bondage
- Power exchange
- Spanking
- Pegging
- Restraints
I could go on and on and not even come close to exhausting the list.
Many kinky and sex-positive people want to reclaim the whole concept of “sluttiness” away from those that would judge, ostracize, and attack them for their own personal, nonconforming sexual tastes.
Two or more people that enjoy each other’s particular brand of kinkiness could get along swimmingly and appreciate the hell out of each other. I’m not even particularly kinky myself, but I think ethically kinky individuals are some of the most put-together and self-aware people there are. Kink and respect are not mutually exclusive.
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