Being an experienced person, what is the best time to have sex with your partner? Is it okay when they are angry?

What kind of “angry” is your partner and what kind of “angry” are you?     ; – )     {*Hint* *Wink* *Nudge*}

Is your partner angry because you continually forget to take out the garbage or clean the bathroom when you promised to? Is your partner angry because you refuse to engage in direct conflict? Is your partner angry because you spend money on personal things that you both agreed would be joint purchases? The type of anger previously described is legitimate conflict that needs to be resolved outside of the bedroom.

Is the anger in question specifically about sex? If so, then you need to discuss (honestly, openly, and without blame) how to resolve that issue before any sex takes place.

Is your top “angry” that you, as a bottom, didn’t make the bed to their exacting specifications and will now “punish” you with a good, hard spanking (you desperately want and negotiated beforehand)? Has it been awhile and you’re desperate to rip each other’s clothes off and “take it out on each other”? In this instance, the “anger” in question is kink-specific sex play that requires prior negotiation, safe words / safety procedures, emotional flexibility and focused attention to detail, your partner’s moods, and your own while in scene.

If your partner doesn’t want to have sex, then obviously you don’t have sex with them. But if you both want to try “angry” sex, you need to indicate that in a way that (1) is clearly erotic and consensual and (2) looks nothing like your legitimate anger or disappointment. There’s absolutely no excuse for getting this wrong.