*** Content Warning: frank discussion of anal sex. ***

My boyfriend wants to fuck me in the ass. How do I enjoy being fucked in the ass?

People that enjoy getting fucked in the ass know how to “get where they want to go” (that’s orgasms: clitoral, anal, prostate stimulation, blended, etc.).

They also know how to give their partners what they want without “unwanted surprises” (that’s enemas or using the bathroom and wiping thoroughly to remove any stray feces).

And condoms + lube: plenty o’ lube – don’t skimp.

How do you enjoy being fucked in the ass? By being thoroughly conversant in your own pleasure and communicating that and safety to your partner/partners.

Take your time. Explore your body. Relax, find out what does or doesn’t feel good, and adjust accordingly.

A lot of this is going to be awkward at the beginning, so you’re going to have to set the pace as the penetrated partner.

People that like anal sex report stories like this:

“Each time I could take a little more and give a little more, I felt more sexually alive and powerful. As I incorporated anal eroticism into my sex life, my sex life became better and better. The sex got hotter, my partners extra adventurous, my orgasms fierce and explosive. The physical sensations were undeniably some of the best I’d ever felt in my life.”

“Part of the reason why I love it so much is because it’s so taboo and it makes me feel so dirty and perverted, which, for me, is a huge turn-on. Sometimes, I like to feel like I’m an absolute slut. It just makes me feel so wet and horny.”

However, people that don’t like anal sex report stories like this:

“After having anal sex, I am not interested in any kind of sex for several days afterwards because it f*ing hurts.”

“[It] feels like I need to diarrhea. Hmmm … diarrhea – nope. Cannot connect the dots from that to erotic, color me average.”

“THE WORST PART is that anal gives me this lovely uncontrollable extended release of gas – the interminable fart, at unpredictable times, several hours after the deed. You’re walking out of the elevator into the hotel lobby and it starts. There’s no closing it off – it comes out in an undulating mocking wave that lasts almost 60 seconds, and THEN its little brother hits you again later when you’re ordering a juice at a cute corner café next to a mom and her adorable baby.”

You know you better than any of us ever will. If you don’t want or like anal sex as much as or more than your boyfriend, find something else that’s revs your motor the way you really like.