I’m 16 (male). Is it weird that I want to save my first kiss and my virginity until after marriage?
No, there’s nothing wrong with what you want.
However, you are going to encounter some very specific difficulties that you must address if you want a healthy relationship with the spouse you intend to have.
- How important is kissing to you or your potential partner?
- How important is sex (or what you consider to be sex)?
- What kind of frequency of kissing and sex are you expecting in your married relationship?
- What kind of kinks do you think you have (or might have)?
What’s required of you in the dating world is radical, uncompromising honesty (since you’re not willing to try things out beforehand).
If you want a lot of kissing and sex in your marriage, you’re going to have to investigate beforehand all the types of kissing and sex you might want.
That means paying attention to what other people who like kissing and sex say they like and seeing if that turns you on. If certain things do, note those things and communicate them to your potential partners ahead of time. That way they can decide if what you think you’ll like is what they actually want. They’ll have to do the same for you.
If you skip this essential step, you’re crossing your fingers and hoping for the best (which will probably end up in some type of estrangement, if not separation and divorce, from your future partner).
Here’s some direct advice about kissing that I’ll give you.
- Brush your teeth.
- Don’t use too much mouthwash.
- Take it slow.
- Don’t try to put your tongue in someone’s mouth at the start.
- Consider shaving ahead of time if you have a thick or scratchy mustache or beard.
If you haven’t already detected the tone of my comment, I’m advising you to please not skip this essential step. Don’t just agree to something you don’t want to avoid uncomfortable disagreements. Embrace the fact that not everyone’s going to want what you’re offering.
Once you’re in the relationship you want with a partner who wants you, continue listening to each other and being honest.
All the best.
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