I’ve decided I’m not going to have sex with my husband unless he is kind to me. I regret having sex with unkind guys. Is that strong of me?

If you want to exude unmistakable, transparent strength …

• Divorce your husband.
• Find genuinely kind people to date, not people who put on an act to “get some.”
• Have sex with the one (or ones) you want and that want(s) you back.
• Decide what ethical relationship style you want going forward and accept nothing less.

The personality renovation project is his and his alone. I wouldn’t devote any more energy to it than you already have.

All the best.