How can I deal with my feelings and take the right actions if I developed feelings for my married boss? I am a married woman and have a good marriage.

Act professionally at all times when you’re in their presence.

Are you just bursting at the seams waiting to compliment them on something other than their work? Don’t do it.

Do you start to flirt with or make goo-goo eyes at your boss? At home, practice making your face an impassive mask. Look in the mirror if you have to until you perfect a nonchalant appearance. Keep your conversations job-related.

Do you start to tremble or shake in their presence? Excuse yourself, leave the room, regain your composure, then try again until you can be around them relatively calmly.

Are you eager to have that “platonic” lunch or drink after work with them? Will you be tempted to divulge something a little too revealing about your personal life at that point? Don’t accept that invitation (and don’t make it, either).

Practice, practice, and practice again until you can be around this person without revealing your attraction. Save those feelings and actions for your actual lover (or lovers).

In time, the feeling should pass. If it doesn’t, consider transferring to another department or getting another job.

All the best.