Why do people judge me because I have affairs with married men?

Because this is one of the greatest fears people in committed relationships dread.

Because people who have been deeply hurt by a betrayal of vows are operating from one of the worst pains they’ve ever experienced.

You could try polyamory. You could try swinging. You could try group sex. You could try hook-ups, one-offs, and booty calls. You could try old fashioned monogamous dates leading to a monogamous commitment of your own. You could masturbate if you’re simply horny and need to scratch that itch. You could role play a cheating scenario with a willing partner if this is a hot fantasy for you.

If you think married men are the bomb and feel you just have to do this, you could discuss, face to face with their spouses, the status of their open relationships.

In short, you could try a number of options where everyone involved is consenting, being honest, ethical, and straightforward.

Instead, you’ve sought out the dishonest option that will most likely wound, hurt, and disappoint the deceived party.

Instead, you’ve chosen men who could work on the problems in their marriages that led to the affairs but choose to betray their partners instead.

You might want to ask yourself, with the help of a qualified and credentialed therapist, why you do this.