I’m 17 (male) and met this girl, 19, online and want to hook up with her. I have never met her but she currently thinks I’m 18. Do I admit my age, or what should I do if she asks?

I know that you’re young. I suspect you’re very horny.

I get that sex is kind of a big deal to you right now, and not just for the mutual pleasure you both might share. Your social status will most likely increase if you can show your friends that you’ve had sex with a woman. I think that all-too-typical situation sucks, but I’m not going to judge you for how you navigate that with your peers.

Back to the problem at hand. No matter what you tell others to save face, tell her the truth. She thinks you’re a legal adult and I suspect you’re lying to her about it to get what she might not give otherwise.

I’m not going to call rape by deception, but, wow, this is so not good. Women routinely and accurately complain about men that lie and fail to disclose the truth about themselves and their motivations. You don’t want to become yet another untrustworthy dude women dread their whole lives long. You don’t want to have to unlearn this shit when you’re forty.

No matter what you may have heard about “having game,” make sure that you learn and practice having integrity. That way, you’ll know without a doubt which women actually want you.

By and large, that year might not make that much of a difference to you, her, or the society you’re in. But she can still get in trouble if you proceed, however remote that possibility might be.

Regardless of what everyone else thinks, her rule seems to be she only dates and has sex with people eighteen and above. Respect her choice.