Notice I didn’t say “the” appropriate response. Whatever reaction you have to abuse is appropriate (as long as it doesn’t harm anyone else—that isn’t the abuser).

What I’m choosing to focus on is people that are so very, very worried that you might be wallowing, whining, or stuck.

To those people: We have it covered. Please keep your worry to yourselves unless asked.

And if that seems defensive or snippy to you, ask yourselves why.

Why are you so troubled by our reactions to abuse instead of the abuse itself?

Yeah, that’s what I thought.

Sorry, but this sort of presumptuous hand-wringing more than smacks of respectability politics and concern trolling.

Who are the people most likely to be abused and why are they routinely reminded to keep their displeasure in check?

That shit is rarely for our benefit.