Should I try to win over my crush?

Be winning. Don’t try to win anything.

Do you understand the difference? The first strategy isn’t even a strategy. It’s just letting your awesomeness shine forth. I’m not talking about vanity or arrogance. Just know that you have good qualities and enhance them in your everyday life. Be the kind of person you’d like to meet.

The second strategy is a stratagem. It’s a trick designed to fool the other person into liking someone who isn’t you. It’s employed by people with low self-esteem. You should be in the business of honestly liking yourself. If you find you’re repelling the people you want to attract, do an honest self assessment, try to do better without wholesale personality change, and ask yourself if the people you want are actually worth it. Again, don’t be in love with your shallowest self. Simply like yourself, your goals, your dreams, your passions, and know you’re worth someone else’s high regard.

My guess is that most people never “get” their crush. Honest, forthright, self-sufficient, likable and lovable people, however, get something better than crushes. They tend to attract people who can and want to actually love them back.

All the best.